“Happiness is not the cause of gratitude…. It is the result”
What does it mean to find happiness in what we have?
Being the mother of a lot of kids can be challenging, especially when teenagers and toddlers are mixed together.
We definitely have some rough times as well as many beautiful moments. It can be far too easy to focus on the hard days; especially when they seem to get stacked together.
You can feel as if you’ll never come up for air. There are times and moments where I wonder if it is possible for the youth nowadays to find happiness in what we have!
When I picked up one of my teenagers from school today she shared a short paragraph she had to write for English. They were to write a paragraph based off of the question “How would you change things so that you could have the perfect life?”.
My daughter’s response was: “I don’t really think about trying to have the perfect life. I have good parents, a nice home to live in and A LOT of siblings. I don’t think of having more because I have so much.” She continued in written paragraph by saying: “If I could change some pieces, I would have more sisters and less brothers. I don’t think that’s obtainable to just get rid of some brothers and have more sisters. Other than that I have everything I need. I don’t have to think about the perfect life because I’m happy with what I have.”
At such a young age and with all she has been through; you can read more about our family struggles and tragedies on my about page and here at Scars on my Heart. I can say this sweet girl has found Happiness in what we have. She truly has the meaning and love of gratitude in her sweet heart.
This teenager that struggles with depression and self-esteem issues is developing an inner confidence and resilience. She doesn’t want for anything other than to be who she is, to have the family she has and to be happy. She may want to exchange some of the boys in our house for girls but in the end she loves her family just the way we are. Flaws and craziness and all….
In this day and age with kids having every new toy and the next “it” electronics; to have my sweet sassy teenager, be satisfied makes my soul soar. For her to pick out the positives, gives me hope and strengthens my faith.
I’ve seen families obsess over spending an obscene amount of money on Christmas and birthday gifts. Everywhere I go all I see is Christmas propaganda to get people to spend money. Nowhere have I seen anything mentioned about the reason for the season.
My focus this time of year is working on getting through Thanksgiving and making sure as a family we remember why we always need to stop and be grateful. We have had many losses but we truly have so many blessings. I plan to spend time being in a state of thankfulness for what I have and who I am.
I never shop on “black Friday”, maybe because I’m too full and sleepy from the day before and don’t want to even think of fighting the traffic and packed stores. Or maybe….. because it’s hard for me to spend a month in gratitude to then switch into wanting more mode the very next day?
I am so very grateful and blessed for a daughter that is content and happy with what she has. Sometimes less really is more.
What things make you happy? Are you able to find happiness even when things have not gone so well?
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