On your wedding day, the last thing that you want to be thinking about is whether or not you’re being polite to all your guests but there is wedding etiquette. You’ve got enough to think about without also having to worry if you’ve offended one of your great aunts or your dad’s best friend who you haven’t seen since you were twelve! Here are some tips about how to stay on everyone’s good side on your wedding day…
Wedding Etiquette: Do’s and Don’ts of Your Big Day
What To Do: Make sure that you go around talking to all your guests. Although the day is obviously centered on you and your partner, all your guests have traveled to see you and have probably gone to great expense for your big day, so you should probably spend a good amount of time talking to them and making sure they know that you’re delighted to see them there.
What Not To Do: Spend all your time with your new husband, try and balance things out a little bit. Yes, you’re in love and you’re delighted to be married – but everyone knows that already and you’ve got a whole lifetime to be together, so spend some time with the people you don’t see as often! Your parents and new in-laws will really want to feel included. This doesn’t mean you can’t spend a lot of the reception with your new spouse but try to show your appreciation to all of the people that came to share this wonderful day with you.
What To Do: Make a wedding list. It’s important to be clear about what the perfect wedding gifts are to you. If you’ve already been living together for a while, then chances are that you’ll have most things already, so it is absolutely okay to ask for money instead. Be aware that not all of your family and friends will be into the idea, though, so have some gift ideas ready in case you get asked for them.
What Not To Do: Don’t get annoyed with anyone who gets you a gift if you asked for money. They’re being generous and the thought is still there.
What To Do: Have a child-free wedding if you want one. A lot of parents want a day off from being around their kids, and they might want to have a few drinks without having to worry about childcare at the end of the night or take turns to go upstairs and watch their sleeping toddler in their hotel room. Rather, give them free licence to drop the kids off with their parents and come along to party. You might not feel like having a small child interrupt your ceremony, which is fair enough. Just make sure you’re clear on the invitation so parents have ample time to make childcare plans.
What Not To Do: Unless we’re talking nursing newborns or your flower girl, don’t make any exceptions to the child-free rule if this is what you’ve decided. It will lead to resentment among your guests.
What To Do: Choose your favorite people as groomsmen and bridesmaids. You are absolutely not obligated to have a huge line of bridesmaids that you don’t particularly want, let alone if you have to pay for their outfits! It’s your big day so you deserve to have only the people you really want in all of your wedding pictures.
What Not To Do: Make sure that you’re tactful about who to have as a bridesmaid. If you sense that any of your friends are upset at not getting picked, make sure you have a reason for your choices ready.
What would you add or take away from these Do’s and Don’ts of Wedding Etiquette?