Stop Wasting Time: Sensible Ways to Spot a Man Who is Ready to Commit
If you’re like a lot of women these days, you may be wondering if you’ll ever meet a man who isn’t afraid to get married, have kids and otherwise settle into a nice, normal life. The truth is, there are plenty of good men with good intentions out there. The trouble is finding them. Stop wasting your time on unavailable guys, and learn a few sensible ways to spot a man who’s looking for a steady relationship with someone like you.
Top signs a man is ready to commit to a relationship with you
When you make plans together, does he call you and ask for a date, or does he just say something like, “let’s hang out.” When a guy asks you for a real date, it means more to him than just spending time with you as a friend. If you’re unclear of his intentions the next time he mentions ‘hanging out,’ ask him if he means a real date. If he hems and haws, you may wish to seek a real relationship elsewhere, explain relationship gurus at Verily magazine.
Is he willing to go slow, or does the fellow you’re seeing expect you to drop everything and move in with him right away? A guy who’s really into you and intends a long-term relationship will be happy to wait as long as it takes for the two of you to get to know each other in a relaxed, no-pressure fashion.
Is your time together purely social time with other people around, or do the two of you spend alone time together? Concerts and social events can be a whole lot of fun, but they’re not the best way to get to really know someone. By ‘alone time’ we don’t mean sexual intimacy exclusively. If the bedroom is the only place you and your fellow are ever alone, you may wish to rethink the whole thing. If a guy is into you for the long run, he’ll want to know you on a variety of levels and in all sorts of situations.
If a guy takes you on real dates that are planned days or weeks ahead of time, there’s a good chance he’s into you enough to make a commitment. A man who only invites you to his place to watch television, eat pizza and just be there is probably not as into you as you wish he were. Men who are willing to commit to a woman tend to take her places, treat her to dates and other out-of-the-house activities, says anewmode.com. He’ll want to share his hobbies and learn about hers.
Meeting his family and friends
When he says he wants to introduce you to his family, it’s a good sign that he is ready to build a life with you. Meeting his parents and siblings is a far cry from him introducing you to his friends. He could do that because he wants to show you off as a great girl to be seen with. When he takes you home to meet mom and dad, the introduction means a lot to him.
Risks of dating a man who’s afraid to commit
When you spend time with a man who is over the age of, say, 40, and who’s never been married or even engaged, you might want to rethink falling in love with him. To do so could imperil your perspective and self-esteem, and it could lead to heartbreak on your part, as well, notes Psychology Today magazine. If you think that sexual intimacy and a few good laughs are enough to land a man who considers unlimited space the ideal, please think again. Your perspective’s off and you might be a bit delusional. Men who fear commitment feel sure about it in their minds and are loath to change. In fact, any woman who believes she can change a man ‘for his own good’ is wasting her time.
Men with commitment fears dodge true love like the plague, and their reasons for doing so are often similar. Fear of being hurt again ranks highly on the commitment-phobia scale, as do the fears of loss of freedom and worries about settling for one sexual partner for the rest of their life. If a man you know feels these things, no amount of time or space is likely to get him to change his outlook on marriage and commitment.
If you want to be in a relationship with a good man who’s not afraid to commit, be patient. Do the things you love to do, go the places you like to go and increase your chances of meeting someone with similar interests.