It’s the end of the school year, and that means high school proms, college proms and senior proms are occurring all over the world. For kids, it’s a time to celebrate the achievements of the past educational year, a release from homework and the stresses of school life. Here in Hawaii season has just ended but I’ve learned there’s a lot that goes into preparing your kids for prom. You all know I have 7 kids…. so this is going to be a long road for us.
Preparing Your Kids For Prom
Preparing your kids for prom is another job we have to add to the list of things to do.
However, it’s quite a fun one. Watching your children graduate into adulthood is a heartwarming feeling, and it’s one to be treasured. Prom night is the single biggest occasion of your child’s educational life, and it’s up to you to help them get it right.
We all work hard to teach our kids about underage drinking and the many pitfalls and temptations.
A lot of prom attendees will feel like they’ve earned a drink, even if they aren’t of age. This can result in them buying their own from a shop, or going to a friend’s house for an after party. Many scary things can happen that we as parents can’t even imagine.
The many scenarios can spiral out of control, quickly. My parents had open discussions with me and even with my friends. They let me know under no circumstances was it allowable. Since I knew my parents were active in my school and with other parents I knew there was no room to risk doing anything I didn’t want to suffer the consequences of. Having an open door to talk allows teens and adults the freedom to be themselves. This way, the adults could remain in control and keep things in check.
It’s arguably the most important part of the entire prom experience, so you have to help your kids get it right! It’s unlikely they’ll be forking out for it themselves, or have much experience in this area, and that means it’s on you.
For the boys, it’s important to retain comfort while still looking smart. A tailored suit is your best bet – it’ll provide an unrivalled fit, with comfort and style in spades. A regular old store-bought suit wouldn’t account for your child’s specific body type.
There are plenty of ways to make the tailoring experience easier, too. Sites like Lanieri.com allow you to make your measurements online, so you don’t even have to leave the house. Don’t forget to factor in that they’ll be wearing a shirt and tie underneath the blazer when making measurements.
There’s a fine line when choosing a dress for your child to wear at prom. It can’t look too casual, but it also can’t look too smart – like a Disney princess or wedding dress. Like the boys wear, it needs to be comfortable and stylish – there’ll probably be a lot of dancing going on!
Whatever you choose, be sure to keep it simple. A light-colored backless dress is a simple garment that allows some breathing room for the wearer. Most proms take place towards the end of Spring, so remember how warm it will be too.
Don’t Be So Strict that it’s Unrealistic
You have to have faith in your child and allow them to do things their own way. This is their night, and being too ‘parenty’ can make them feel held back.
On the other hand, make sure you’re there for them if they need it. You know your child better than anyone else. If you notice that they’re shy, or embarrassed, take them to one side for a pep talk.
If you know your child is confident, can drive safely to and from prom and has a level head, then your task is easier. It’s hard to be a parent, and you won’t always get things right. Just remember that tonight you are their mom and dad. You’re their biggest cheerleader and supporter. Give love and understanding, that’s all they need.
Check Out the Venue Beforehand
This can help both parent and child immensely. If you’re taking your child to prom, this helps you get there quicker on the night. If your child is taking themselves, then it gives them the confidence to be able to find it. Maybe they’ll think about getting in with some other friends and renting a limo to the big event??? There are so many options, keep an open mind.
Make sure all your bases are covered. The last thing you want, when the big day arrives, is to be scrambling to organize transport and directions. Even if you use services like instantstreetview.com to get a rough idea of where you’re headed, it’s better than nothing. Be prepared, when the big day comes everything happens really fast 🙂
Let Your Kids Enjoy it!
Once you’ve ticked all these other jobs off the list, you only have one more left. Share in the excitement of the night, and enjoy it as much as your child does. It’s a once in a lifetime experience, and it deserves to be savored.
Oh and one last nugget of advice. Take plenty of pictures. Lots and lots of pictures. Take them before the prom, and give your child a camera to take. I know they have their cell phones but they aren’t always the best pictures or their battery may die. Giving them a digital or a disposable will take some good pics of them and their friends. They’ll love taking them after the prom too, when everyone is having fun and enjoying the evening.
Do you have any advice when it comes to preparing your kids for prom? This can be an enjoyable time if we try to minimize the stress. What are your prom stories? I’d love to hear them!