I’m getting more and more frustrated with my 13 year-old sons attitude. No matter what I do, it’s never good enough.
I woke up early this morning to take him to his fundraiser. I didn’t have to, I choose to because I love him and want him to be able to travel and have all the amazing opportunities open to him. Was he grateful for me taking him? No, he was almost annoyed that he had to get up. Are you kidding me? This is for him, and I make all the effort. While we were at the fundraiser his attitude change and he was pleasant and interacting nicely. I told him when we were done I would take him to get something to eat. We got done with the fundraiser late, the other parent to relieve us was running behind. I got on the highway in a rush to get home to my other kids and husband. Once we are on this highway there is really nowhere to get food between there and our house without going out of our way. I told him after I go run some errands I would bring him back something special. He needed to stay home to do school work. He agreed, I reminded him there was lots to eat in the house. I Went and did my errands with some of my other tribe of kids and totally spaced out his food. I got home and he lashed out at me. He would not let up. I apologized profusely. Then I realized, Hey! wait a minute I’m the parent. I explained to him that I’m human and I’m going to make mistakes, but under no circumstances EVER is he to disrespect me. I will not tolerate it!
There was a time when I would let the kids act out in this manner. I felt sorry for them for all the pain and suffering they had been through in their young short lives. Once I stopped spinning out of control from my own grief I realized, I am hurting them by allowing this behavior and I’m hurting myself. It’s so hard to be firm and consistent, but this is what our children need. It’s what I need for my sanity.
I feel sometimes we live in a generation where the kids expect the parents to be at their beck and call. Like my life is just them. NO!!! My life is mine and they enhance it and I will do everything in my power to give them what I can. I will teach my children to be respectful human beings, living life on life terms. The hardest thing to learn in life; for kids and adults is how to accept disappointment. We do not always get what we want. A wonderful friend always tells me and the kids when she hears someone say “that’s not fair”, “That’s right it’s not fair, life is not a carnival”. Life is a roller coasters of ups and downs. And that’s okay, we are living and learning everyday.
How do you handle lack of gratitude and attitude?
I am grateful for having a beautiful weekend with my family. I can find the beauty of things even in the hectic. I’m also grateful for a nice clean car, thanks to hubby!