Our lives, living in controlled chaos. Raising kids & coping with tragedy
I’d like to share a little About Me and my Family
My name is Debbie Tom, I am married to a wonderful man named Keala. This is my 3rd marriage (sounds like a lot huh?). We live in beautiful Hawaii on the island of Oahu.
My first marriage occurred when I was very very young, and didn’t end soon enough. I was in an extremely abusive relationship and I thank God and some other very amazing people for helping me break free.
My second husband died very sadly on 2/12/2008. While driving home from work he had a fatal heart attack.
I lost both my parents not very long ago in a very tragic way. In my mind they were murdered. The official way they died was a murder suicide, I have yet to come to terms with this. You may read a little about their death here. My children and I are in therapy to help us to come to terms with what has happened. My official diagnosis is severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
I am a nurse that is staying at home right now to care for our rambunctious brood and get them to all of their activities.
I am a christian that attended Kahului Baptist Church from the time I was a little girl until just a couple of years ago when we moved from Maui to Oahu. I am a devoted christian that has lost some faith many times throughout my diversities. Somehow God never left my side and even in the depths of my darkest hours I had that little mustard seed of faith. The one my grandparents would tell me to never lose. I believe and support every ones faith or lack of faith. Our differences are the things I find most beautiful about mankind. I believe we are all in this together and we need to support and welcome our differences.
Heartbeats Soul Stains is a place I’d like to share my thoughts and experiences on being a woman, wife, a mother of 7, friend and survivor of many different obstacles, challenges and tragedy.
I will share the good, the bad and the oh so ugly things that happen in a family our size. Life is hard for all of us, we all have those crosses to carry. Life is also very beautiful and precious and I am determined to never take the amazing blessing I have been given for granted.
Now that I’ve shared a little about me, I would love to learn more about you!