I cannot even begin to tell you how I desire and strive for balance in every single aspect of my life. Having too much work, too much kid time, too much housework, too much play time can be daunting. Finding balance while juggling motherhood can be one of the biggest tasks we face.
7 Tips for Finding Balance While Juggling Motherhood
In general it can be hard for anyone to balance all that life throws our way. As parents we have our children watching and learning from everything we do; the good and the not so good. Since we want our children to grow into the best and most productive human beings they can be; the examples we set NOW will be what they carry on in adulthood. Teaching them at a young age about finding balance in all that they do will surely help them to be happier and a bit more carefree later.
- You, your family, and your situations are completely unique to You! Learning to not compare my family, my kids, my job or my life circumstances to anyone else has been the most difficult yet absolutely defining thing in my life. When I’m able to see this is our family’s difficulties,stressors and obstacles and we will face them as a team (yes, sometimes I feel like I’m the only one on my team). No comparing what anyone else is doing or facing is freeing. I see the moms that appear to juggle things and do them a lot better than me; but hey…. good for them we are all unique. We also don’t know what they are facing.
- Take a look at what is complicating things and causing life to seem or feel out of balance. Are there areas that can be cut out, reduced or changed up a bit? Take a look and prioritize. If there is something that brings you happiness and joy, or does the same for a family member keep those things. See if it’s possible to keep certain things but maybe cutback or restructure the activity so it can still be there but more enjoyable.
- Making lists and having a somewhat schedule. I say somewhat since my family is so large (7 kiddos) it’s very easy for one to get sick, injured or just throw everything off with a last-minute something. Some people are really awesome at lists and schedules; at making them and sticking with them. I bow down and genuinely admire them. Although, I have fought off doing lists and schedules I have now found that I can’t successfully manage what I need to do and get done if I don’t have them. I think being able to be flexible with the schedules is key for me. It’s also a great tool for kids to learn. Schedules help children to feel structure in their lives, structure is one of the most important things we can give them.
- No matter what… and I mean no matter what take time for yourself. You can’t be everything you need to be to your family if you aren’t taking care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. It’s also imperative to take time with your spouse or significant other. Taking time to elevate that bond between the two of you will give a boost in your relationship while at the same time relieving stress. We can fully be there for our little ones or not so little ones if we are putting our well-being first. Get out there and establish an exercise routine, find a hobby and have that QT time with that special someone. You deserve it! Looking for ways to boost your love life here are 77 ideas.
- Just say No! As much as we want to always be able to do everything and say yes to everything; it’s just not humanly possible. It’s not possible and we can’t keep our sanity and enjoy all the peace there is in life if we don’t say no to what we can’t or don’t want to do. There are the must have to’s in life and then there are the things we have choices about. Select what is good for you and your family and decide from there. If one of the kids, a family member, friend or someone else isn’t happy with us then it’s really their issue. Say yes to what you can, must do and want to do. Say No to anything else that doesn’t work for you. This is all about setting boundaries.
- Delegate and ask for help. Asking for help and passing around the responsibilities does not mean we aren’t simply amazing! Delegating is an art form and takes talent 🙂 Take a look around and see where you can lighten your load no matter how tiny the task is. It’s often harder for me to ask for help or to delegate a chore or task, in the end it will open the door for other things or for #4 to be used to its fullest.
- Be ok with what happens. Life is life, there are speed bumps that may throw everything off. There will be times where we will need to find contentment in the what is. You are your own cheerleader and you can also be the hardest on yourself. Cut yourself some slack and accept when things don’t go as planned. Expectations can be self-defeating if they are not reasonable. In most things in 1 week, 1 month, 1 year or 10 years no one will remember what we didn’t get done or weren’t able to attend. Hopefully we will all look back on these things and laugh. I know for sure I don’t remember the things my parents weren’t able to do or the big huge hoopla of things. What I remember the most is the little moments we had; those are the things I will cherish in my heart forever.
Are you facing a plate that’s so full it’s about to crack? What ways are you finding balance while juggling motherhood, fatherhood or just life in general?