5-Step Guide for Dealing with Bereavement
Grief and loss come in many different sizes and shapes. When helping my patients while they are dealing with bereavement I’ve seen the devastation and impact death can bring to anyone. You know through my personal ups and downs the pain my family has endured through our journey of loss. Discussing the process with others I wanted to share some tips they may help a bit.
The death of a relative or close friend can be very difficult to deal with. You will be overcome with grief, which can be a lot to bear. After a particularly sudden and unexpected death, the feeling of loss can be particularly bad. However, you can take comfort from knowing that you will eventually find it easier to handle. The loss will never go away, but the sharp pain will become different at some point. There are ways you can begin to make things just a bit easier. Here is a helpful 5-step guide for dealing with bereavement. Some of these are tips my patients have shared that have been useful for them. Some of these may or may not help, the idea is to try what works and leave behind what doesn’t.
Remember The Good Times
After a person passes, we still have fond memories of them to hold on to. Try to remember them for all the love and joy they brought to the world. This will help replace your tears with a smile once you remember how special they were to you. To help you keep these happy memories shining bright, try to commemorate them and create a memorial to your loved one. Why not fill a photo album with photos of the two of you together. Personal memorials such as these are a great way you can remember the deceased in a way that can help you ease your pain.
Speak To Others
Your other friends and family will probably be going through the same sadness and grief as you are right now. If you join together and help each other out, you will find that the bereavement is easier to cope with. Get together and talk about all the fun times you had with the deceased. This will be a good way to remember all the good times, as I mentioned in the first point. As long as all your friends and family are there to help support you, you will always know that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel.
Get Professional Help
If you feel like everything is getting to be too much, think about seeking professional help. First of all, book an appointment with your family doctor. After chatting to him, he will decide whether you should be referred to a mental health specialist. This is someone who can offer you therapy or prescribe you any drugs you might need to help battle depression.
Visit A Psychic
This step isn’t for everyone. However, many people have told me they have found comfort in visiting a psychic. These are people who can communicate with people who have passed over. Some people just want to try to contact their deceased loved ones to make sure they are no longer in any pain. When you are looking for a psychic, be sure to get one of the best psychics, as there are many fraudsters about. You are seeking help and comfort but always remember to verify who you are working with. Patients that have sought psychics or gone down other avenues are just in their search for finding how to go on without their loved one. No one persons way of coping is good or bad, each has their own path.
Visit Their Grave Or Other Special Place
If you ever feel like you have something to say to the deceased, visit their grave or memorial. This can be very therapeutic as it will give you the chance to get anything off your chest that you didn’t have chance to while they were alive. Leaving flowers on a grave is also an appropriate way to leave a tribute to them. If your loved one doesn’t have a grave think about a special place. A place that was important to them or to both of you. I have found deep comfort sitting in a familiar place that brought back all of our cherished memories.
Hopefully, this guide will make it easier to deal with your loved one’s passing. It won’t change things but just knowing there are others on this heart-wrenching journey can let you know that you are not alone. My biggest advice is to be gentle with yourself. Don’t have expectations of how you are supposed to be dealing with bereavement. There is no right or wrong way, it just is.
Please reach out to me if you need to talk or there are things you want to share with me. I’m here. Do you have any tips or advice for those struggling with loss? We all would love to hear what you have to share.