Parenthood Struggles Got You Down?
Many people seem to envision that if you’re a parent, you automatically should know what you’re doing. That isn’t the case of course! In fact, the early stages of parenthood can be incredibly overwhelming. It’s easy to get stressed and feel like you can’t do it. It’s important to recognize that this is a normal feeling! Don’t panic, don’t stress; it’ll get easier. If you’re looking for a bit of advice to help push you through during those parenthood struggles I have a few tips.
Talk To Other Parents
If you’re finding it tough in the initial stages, the chances are that many other parents are too. If you know other people who have recently become parents, don’t neglect the chance to speak to them! You can work together to overcome any challenges that you may face, as well as providing tips for different scenarios. Also, it’s very beneficial to talk and network, seeking different view points can give you insight. Remember; they’ll have seen all of it before. Whether you agree with their advice is another thing entirely, but it’s certainly useful to keep the good advice and discard the negative or the things that don’t work for your family.
Create A Positive Atmosphere
One of the things that many parents struggle with is a feeling of helplessness. Their child is acting up or constantly crying, and they don’t know what to do. Of course, if you feel their health is in danger, you should be taking them to a doctor. In terms of normal behavior, though, it might just be a case of changing how you react to it. The environment you create for them is an important one; it needs to be happy and stress-free. If you react in a negative way around them, they’ll respond in kind. Karen Salmansohn quoted that we need to “distract ourselves away from negativity and choose happier thoughts.”. I completely to agree. Our thoughts can change our entire day, week, year and life and they affect those around us as well.
Join Parenting Groups
This coincides a little with the original tip about talking to other parents. If you don’t know many others, and you want direct help, why not join parenting groups? You can be matched up with like-minded people who are all trying to create the best lives possible for their child and themselves. Technology has changed the way in which we can do this. You don’t have to travel to a physical place anymore. If you want to, seek out Facebook groups in which people can offer advice. If stress is really getting to you always seek the advice of your doctor or think about seeing a therapist. Many people (more than you can imagine) seek professional help just to have someone to talk to and bounce things off of.
Remember That It Will Get Easier
I know it might feel like it now, but it won’t always be this hard. Parenting gets much easier over time. We as parents also adapt as our kids grow older and mature. There are many days where I have to stop and remember what my dad always said, “This too Shall Pass”. Everyone has to go through this stage, so make the best of it. Seek help when you need it and be happy that you’re doing everything you can. If you make a mistake, don’t worry. We all do from time to time. Learn from it and you’ll become a better parent as a result. I truly believe our children learn from the way we handle and react to stress and mistakes. Always remember, they are watching everything we do. Our stress and how we adapt to parenting and the many things life throws our way will be something our kiddos will carry with them into adulthood.
Don’t forget to appreciate the time you spend with your children! It is precious. They grow way too fast, live for each moment and enjoy the ride 🙂
Do you have any tips on how to handle parenthood struggles? What has worked for you when the stress of family piles up on your shoulders?